One of the biggest relationship killers is stonewalling. It is when you walk away or shut down in silence. Stonewalling can feel like the only way out of an argument, especially when you aren’t feeling heard or seen. But, stonewalling means you are “over it”, apathetic, and not listening to the other person. Stonewalling is …
Contempt: A relationship killer One of the biggest relationship killers is contempt. “God, you are so stupid!” “He/She always does this!” “Things would be better without you”. Contempt is one of the four relationship killers. According to John and Julie Gottman, the relationship powerhouse therapy couple, it is the third of four relationship killers. Learn …
Defensiveness: A relationship killer One of the biggest relationship killers is defensiveness. “I don’t do that”. “I am not as ___ as you are”. “Oh yeah? Well at least I don’t….” Defensiveness is one of the four relationship killers. According to John and Julie Gottman, the relationship powerhouse therapy couple, it is the second of …
One of the biggest relationship killers is criticism. “You never do the dishes.” “You are always late”. “You don’t care about my feelings.” Criticism is one of the four relationship killers. According to John and Julie Gottman, the relationship powerhouse therapy couple, it is the first of four relationship killers. Learn how to turn the …
